"The body is a house of many windows; There we all sit showing ourselves and crying on the passers-by to come and love us"
~Robert Louis Stevenson
We have all walked or still walking a part in our life wanting others to understand us, appreciate us, praise or acknowledge us and it rarely happens nor if it does it will not be up to our expectations resulting to disappointments or better said as "Nobody understands me"
Gosh a great saying i believe almost every one have mentioned in our lives but how far it is true ? or perhaps it's just a delusion ! Do we really want to be understood or it is just a demand for attention ?
We should understand that attention isn't the recognition or approval for our perfection but self satisfaction is ! When you can take a deep breath and feel satisfied over what you've accomplished nor done that's the ultimate satisfaction and approval as the accomplishment comes from yourself, why would you need an approval from someone else even related to you who would not understand the idea and the effort put in by yourself ! It is as if putting square pegs in round holes to get an approval, understanding, love or attention from others !
Of course getting it from others may be sweet and means a lot but it is only secondary measures this would not be understood as you have been deluded by the norms of the world which acknowledges only external gratification and not the intrinsic value which is in the true fact a greater acknowledgement and much more sweeter and furthermore contributes to the inner growth !
It's funny how to know that people often seek inner motivation or needs such as love, appreciation, gratification etc from the external ! It should begin inward out not outward in !
in a nutshell ;
to be loved, love yourself
to be appreciated, appreciate yourself
to be praised, praise yourself
to be understood, understand yourself
all this to be done by others, is secondary or perhaps a bonus but the basic is better than anything ! Be yourself to be a better self !
We have all walked or still walking a part in our life wanting others to understand us, appreciate us, praise or acknowledge us and it rarely happens nor if it does it will not be up to our expectations resulting to disappointments or better said as "Nobody understands me"
Gosh a great saying i believe almost every one have mentioned in our lives but how far it is true ? or perhaps it's just a delusion ! Do we really want to be understood or it is just a demand for attention ?
We should understand that attention isn't the recognition or approval for our perfection but self satisfaction is ! When you can take a deep breath and feel satisfied over what you've accomplished nor done that's the ultimate satisfaction and approval as the accomplishment comes from yourself, why would you need an approval from someone else even related to you who would not understand the idea and the effort put in by yourself ! It is as if putting square pegs in round holes to get an approval, understanding, love or attention from others !
Of course getting it from others may be sweet and means a lot but it is only secondary measures this would not be understood as you have been deluded by the norms of the world which acknowledges only external gratification and not the intrinsic value which is in the true fact a greater acknowledgement and much more sweeter and furthermore contributes to the inner growth !
It's funny how to know that people often seek inner motivation or needs such as love, appreciation, gratification etc from the external ! It should begin inward out not outward in !
in a nutshell ;
to be loved, love yourself
to be appreciated, appreciate yourself
to be praised, praise yourself
to be understood, understand yourself
all this to be done by others, is secondary or perhaps a bonus but the basic is better than anything ! Be yourself to be a better self !
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