WORK … is where we spend a huge amount of our
life time, For some work is happiness but for many it’s a boiler room where
people seem to drag themselves to and run back when done as fast as possible.
Yet a clear fact is that we may never ever run away from “WORK” …
Recently sharing on a media on how to be happy
at work, ran a thought over it & listed a few points on how we can make
work happy, didn’t manage to share all points due to the time constraint thus
opted to share it on notes to benefit at least a few virtual friends …
To make work happy, one has to adhere to a few
simple yet crucial aspect, a few fundamentals are as follows;
ACCEPT!!! Accepting is always an issue, at
times our expectation may vary from the reality we are in & this is the
root cause of disappointments & bitterness, at work we may sometime end up
in a job that we didn’t really prefer, or perhaps the job isn’t so much as we
imagined before getting into it or maybe we have been doing the same job over
& over again till we are condensed to it eventually killing the fun of
doing it, the said conditions will surely result in “expecting” something
better, this is the key here, expecting something which isn’t there & being
in the reality which is in total contrast with it saps out all the energy &
wears out the spirit and enthusiasm we have overall making us a battered bitter
worker .. Thus ACCEPT the fact and live up with the reality, if it’s too bad to
bear then a change option is good, it may sound drastic but then remaining with
unrealistic expectation makes more damage …..
KNOW YOURSELF & KNOW THOSE WHO WORKS WITH YOU
Knowing the self & knowing others will make
us clear on how to behave & how to react with others, We could never avoid
behaving in a certain way & interacting with others based on their
behavior, these are the fundamentals of socializing and communication in any
workplace and these is the also the fundamental factors of relationship and
communication problems at work, over expectation’s, disappointments, hurt and
other ill feelings among workmates eventually making workplace unhappy. Always
take up efforts to know our very own personality, know what are our very own
likes & dislikes & check if it’s health & constructive, never be
surprised that many people don’t have a clear picture of themselves, Don’t
think so ? Ask yourself this question: who are you? If you answer your name,
there you go, you don’t really know yourself! Pick up skills of understanding
the personality of others in your workplace, this will answer the golden
question of why he/she behaves that way? When you understand others you will
catch hold of how to get the best out of them & how best to respond to them
positively. This will eliminate communication & relationship issues at work
& eventually make you a beloved person at work! Look up the net or find a
counselor to know your personality it’s simple & fun to know & it may
take about 5 mins of your time!
MANAGE EMOTIONS WELL AT WORK!
Emotion! Can be the greatest thereat for
happiness at work, take a simple scenario, you greet a colleague with Good Morning!
& unfortunately he doesn’t’ respond, what happens next? emotion comes in,
disappointment & hurt strikes in, negative thoughts flow in claiming he
hates you, he likes your enemy more than you, he never preferred you etc.
result the entire day is gone in
resentment, Actual fact ! He missed your greeting as was in his Bluetooth
hearing a conversation! that’s how emotion plays a role in coming up with irrational
thoughts & beliefs, not well managed emotions could create much mess making
work very unhappy, how do you manage emotion then ? Simple keep them positive
at all times & never entertain the negative one’s always LOOK AT THE BRIGHT
SIDE!! of anything that happens and always reason things positively ! As this
is practiced you would eventually get used to positive reasoning & emotions
would be more matured & well managed
CREATE A POSITIVE SOCIAL SUPPORT AT WORK NOT A NEGATIVE CLICK OR A
GOSSIP GANG
Always establish a positive support group which
is always dependable in elevating your potentials not a group that pulls it
down, find peers which are rather positive & realistic in their approaches,
keep them as your negativity or unrealistic thought crusher, unlike negative
support group which would might give you great lullabies i.e. negativity &
push you to a slumber i.e. non performer, a positive support group would always
give you a shaker i.e. reality & keep you awake, ensure you have these group
of support to encourage, motivate & support your wellbeing at work,
although it may be a task to form such a support group but it’s worth a try
which would ensure your happiness at work !
ELIMINATE UNREALISTIC & IRRATIONAL EXPECTATION
Both in work & life, problems arises mainly
from unrealistic or irrational expectations, we ought to expect, hope, &
want something which we clearly may not attain or improper to ask for as the
result isn’t within our control yet we tend to do it all time along and harvest
disappointments and hurt eventually pushing us into resentment or becoming a
person with a victim mindset… the common example I love using to describe this
would be expectation of employees on their bosses. Many have the expectation
that their bosses should understand them!! Doesn’t something sounds wrong
there? Which is right? We understand the boss & act accordingly or the BOSS
understands us and acts accordingly? Which is a MUST? The first is surely a must as a work contract
which we abide the latter is something that may happen or may not, you may have
or may not have an understanding boss, this isn’t a MUST! Expecting this MUST
happen will only bring in hurt and disappointment, whatever type of boss you
have, 1st point above: ACCEPT & 2nd Point above: Understand
and behave accordingly this would solve a thousand hurt rather than expecting
the boss to understand you which may not happen & end up working with a
mind full of wanting & hoping which gets your energy drained leaving you
worn out and unhappy at work!!
Surenthiran Pillai
