People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness - Albert Ellis
We are all ought
to get upset, worked up, disappointed in life, it is rather common to
experience so. But how many of us realize that major contributions to such
trouble are often our very own self? It may be a bitter pill but like it a not
swallowing it is a must, Most of us tend to go through disappointment due to
the way we think, there are two ways of thinking which results to our very own
predicaments which are (1) thinking negatively
Negative
thinking results to sinking into a deep slumber of comfort from self-sympathy
which keeps us sound and idle without any progress. A negative thinker would
never want to reinstate the self to a better condition but rather enjoys
keeping the self in a bad state and enjoys complaining about it, Thinkers of
such tends to look at the dark or bad side of things surrounding them, be it in
a relationship, work or basically anything around them causing them to only
loose more in life which reaffirms their negative thoughts again and again.
Negative thinking works like a quicksand, the more you are in it, the more it
pulls you in.
The other
thinking which results in disappointment is (2) Irrational thinking, Irrational
thinkers are selfish thinkers by nature, they tend to judge and think based
only on what they believe or assume, be it right or wrong. These are often individuals who set their
very own beliefs and rely on it in making their decisions and assumptions. When
their belief is based on negativity then the decisions or assumptions revolving
around it would also be negative resulting to disappointment yet irrational
thinkers would go to great heights justifying their beliefs
Both negative
and irrational thinking are the primary reasons for men face disappointments. It’s
a hard truth that many debate with a common statement of “Why would I want to
create disappointments for myself?”.. This question sounds extremely logical but
it is still a truth that “men upset’s
himself” simply because the way we think, it is influenced by many factors
and the worst is that the mind is so fragile towards negativity… And the answer
for the smart question earlier would be “The
mind works in accordance to the subconscious mind compared to the conscious
mind” a hard truth
In simpler
words, we are ought to be upset or disappointed due to the way we think, when
we think negatively or irrationally, we tend to make the wrong decisions and
assumptions which thereafter influences our actions causing disappointments as
an end result compared to the expectation we have, which is often positive and
logical (based on consciousness) yet what we get in life is strongly determined
by our subconscious mind which can easily be negative
One should alter
their mind-set i.e. thinking to ensure that what they attract in life are
inline in what they truly desire, both the conscious and subconscious mind
should be aligned accordingly towards what is truly desired only then
achievements can be attained through the mind, many of us fail in life due to
this simple mistake
Have a check
over the following reasons for disappointments, does it ring a bell? They are
all based from negative or irrational thinking;
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“It’s my fate to be unhappy” (Negative Thinking)
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“I should be happier than him / her” (Irrational Thinking)
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“Everyone else has a better life than me” (Negative Thinking)
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“For all I have done, I must be happy” (Irrational Thinking)
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“All I do will surely turn out to be a failure” (Negative Thinking)
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“Others should follow me because what I say is totally right”
(Irrational thinking)
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“No one will understand and be able to help me” (Negative Thinking)
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“When I do everything right, everything will be alright (Irrational
Thinking)
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“I am always unlucky in life” (Negative Thinking)
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“ I must / should be happy all the time in life” (Irrational
thinking)
It’s normal to have some amount of negative & irrational
thinking in life as human being’s but what matters is that it should not
dominate or influence the mind, If one realizes that they had been ruled by
these negative or irrational thoughts then the realization of it should be
followed with a great change of the mind-set. This is a change towards positivism
Life is too short to be ruined with disappointments, with positive
thinking; life can take a great ride towards being meaningful, fun filled and
peaceful
“When we are aware of our weaknesses or negative tendencies, we open the opportunity to work on them.”- Allan Lokos
