A thought on true inner peace !

Educate or Accommodate ?

If you have 2 kids fighting over a candy what would you do ?

Possible solution;

1.       Buy the other a candy so that both have a candy !

2.       Teach them to share the only candy available !

Which solution  is more impact full to the kid ?

The first solution is rather common and preferable to any one, but then without us realising the first solution is an act of accommodating, whereby it is a solution which resolves the issue easily without much hassle.

This solution no doubt resolves the issue but it results to a few impacts. Firstly this solution jeopardises the opportunity for the kids to learn and anticipate on “sharing virtue”, it also had given the kids a hidden message that when they fight over something, they would get more of it with ease.

The kids will also condition themselves with the believe that they can easily attain whatever they want by just creating an issue or demanding for it, furthermore in this scenario the kids may look at each other as a rival henceforth !

The second solution, The educating solution however creates a learning curve  to the kids in learning the virtue of togetherness, virtues of simplicity, virtues of sharing and brotherhood rather than grasping on rivalry or becoming more materialistic.

Like the above there are many issues  that we tend to “accomodate” rather than “educate”, by doing this we are crippling the possibility for one to learn, to know and grasp on what is the right, what’s a better option or in short a better decision making skill.

Educating provides umpteen opportunities to learn as it broadens the mental scope over the issues related rather than the accommodating methods which constrains the mental capability within the perimeters of the issue related for instance,

When a kid often forgets his / her water bottle, buying a new bottle every time they lost it (accommodating) only affirms his/her forgetfulness and develop a sense of latency over losing the bottle but rather punishing and explaining the importance of remembering the water bottle (educating) is rather an act which develops the sense of belonging and responsibility in him/her.

Overall accommodating results to limitation and educating opens the route to a better learning curve, both methods does offer solutions and remedy but the point to remember is that both method creates impact which is rather positive and negative thus a wise choice is highly required. This does not only apply for parenting but it also applies to leadership and organisational behaviours where decision making, sub ordinations and problem solving is related.

Accommodate or Educate ? Whats your call ? look back over your problem solving, what have you been doing ? Accommodating or Educating ?

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