“A little boy was watching a fully grown butterfly struggling out from its cocoon, feeling pity over its struggle, the little boy tried to ease the struggle of the new butterfly by cutting off the tip of the cocoon ,eventually it had helped the butterfly to crawl out …………….But then the butterfly due to its easy exit from the cocoon, did not stretched its legs and wings in the way it should have turned out to be incapable of flying for the rest of its remaining life span”
Story source: Anonymous
The above may be a simple story yet this is the current scenario amongst adolescents today where it is much clearly seen that their maturity is missing, being pampered by comfort and luxury young ones tends to develop a mentality with fake beliefs which is against maturity and rationality i.e. reality such as ;
- Life is all sweet, simple and nice
- Everyone is friendly, easy going and caring
- The self matters the most
- All issues and troubles will be taken care of by someone else
- All things comes easily
- Friends will be around forever and mean the most in life
- Parents & Family are “providers” and will be so forever
- Freedom is the ultimate need
- Everyone must understand the self and treat the self very nicely
The stated are just a few simple of immaturity which is a load more than that, these are commonly the immature beliefs amongst adolescents, the contributing factors for this immaturity may vary in many aspects but it can be narrowed done to a few such as
1. Parenting
Just like the opening story, parents tend to be very protective over their children making them to provide every single thing at the child’s foot step making them to be retarded in survival skills, soft skills and people management skills overall in maturity since everything have been done well and good for them, there is never an opportunity adolescents to learn and things on their own, as a matter of facts even birds & animals train their young on the survival skills despite being protective. The only curve where adolescents develop the said skills are among their friends / peers which are none the less in the same exposure thus there is nothing much to be learned
2. Education
Education process is supposed to affirm and up keep the necessary values developed from the parenting but in some situations today education plays the role of being a remedial factor for mal-parenting but unfortunately the dilemma is that today education is much commercialised and it is provided in a moderation which does not contribute much amongst adolescents to develop on maturity but rather it a puts them in a stagnant development and to make it worst it affirms their condition by making it possible for them to get to the next step i.e. awarding the adolescents with academic papers but not on a mutual growth or a balanced growth i.e. a half cooked situation
Education process should be functioning as a buffer zone in preparing adolescents in attaining the maturity and sound mind towards tackling and managing life and profession
3. Friends / Peer Circle
As the saying goes, birds of a feather flocks together, the peer group are often established with the similar kinds thus immature groups are membered by immature adolescents which never or rarely embark on attaining maturity which contributes in affirming the immaturity day by day and eventually never do they get matured just like a bud remains a bud rather than blossoming into a beautiful flower
4. Experience
Lacking of experience actually inter relates in all other contributing factors whereby it is clearly known that experience is the best teacher, adolescents today never does learn from experiences as they are never exposed to experience in the first place, being the apple of the eye of parents, teacher and friends it contributes to the comfort rather than the experience which may be hard but indeed a great teacher. Just take a reality check, have a chat with a person you consider as very matured and take note on their experiences, and also do the vice versa, you’ll know what is the fact
Maturity is a key for many to excel in work, family and life all together; Maturity comes a long in life with a package consisting of survival skills, soft skills, leadership skills and so forth which are essential for one to be successful and balanced in life
Employers today are having going through hell to find far from employing a matured and competent staff as most individuals in the work market comes with immaturity and are condensed with the irrational belief’s stated earlier. This makes them incapable to perform at work since reality is against those belief or to be precise, “reality is against immaturity”. Those sustaining the hardship in swallowing the reality pill curing the immaturity are the very few which becomes assets to the organizations the rest are just bad apples who tend to job hop being a rolling stone which collects no moss i.e. experience till they find a place which suits their immaturity best
Gist of the entire topic is that each and every one should bend over the backs to inculcate maturity amongst young ones today, since there are the successors of today’s leaders in the future. Inculcating their maturity is eventually the act of saving the nation against disaster in the future and creating a sustainable human capital
“Growing in age is merely nature’s task but growing in experience makes the man have a mark …”
