What makes a woman special …

“Earth's noblest thing, a Woman perfected. ~James Russell Lowell”

A Woman …many view woman in varied ways such as a special creation, a noble creation, a symbol of sexuality, a being who cannot be understood, and much more.. But many fail to understand that a woman is actually a normal human being but she is destined to travel a journey in her life which often changes her roles and task eventually making her a very special person which forces and inculcates great values and virtues in her if she travels her journey of life fine and vice versa of course ….

A woman starts of her journey of life by being a sweet little girl

Seeking approval of her cuteness, personality and existence from her surroundings, if provided a well conducive nature around her she would eventually love and remember this days throughout her life

She grows into a gorgeous teenage girl

Extending her existence to a larger scope in her surrounding she becomes a person in the society seeking approval from her peers and friends exploring herself and knowing herself well, she would find who is she and would start exploring what she needs in life accompanied by beauty, imaginations and fantasies …

She establishes herself as a woman …

Now that she knows who she is she sets the standards and the meaning for her life, she decides what she wants to do and paves her way through to attain what she wants in her life

She shares her life as a better half

Adhering to the socital need and emotional need she agrees to share her life with a better half and makes a choice and transforms beautifully to a wife accepting all the new duties and roles of a status quo named “wife”

She changes to a mother by bringing a new soul to the world

Meeting the biological needs and being a wife she attains the greatest gift of bringing a new soul to earth and becomes a mother which would introduce her to pains and gains, enhancing her soft and loving nature and inculcating her patience and tolerance and forcing maturity wholly in her

Watching all the growth and development of her young ones she turns into a graceful grandmother …

At every steps of her life a woman has a contribution to someone else bringing forth a meaning and uplifting them, she becomes an inspiration for the men right from the moment a man wants to own her up to her very own daughter begins making food for the family .. A woman contributes in all to everyone in her circle

Being emotionally condensed and strong, understanding the valuable risks and sacrificing personal pleasures and for the wellness of her loved ones is a few of the virtues that the journey of life imposes and gets it out of her these are only the very few of it whereas there a more to it

Now adhering and following through the journey of life meant for a woman is what makes a woman special where she meets the purpose of her creation and lights the spark of life and inspiration in others by illuminating her womanly virtues and values onto her loved ones and the surroundings

A woman who does not appreciate nor understand her journey of life as a woman nor if she misleads her journey of life is the mistake which causes her to have a lesser glow just like a bright light bulb covered by a thick layer of dust

Being so it is vital for a woman to know, understand and accept her role and wholeheartedly in order to make her special, simply by doing so, she develops noble characters of a lovely woman which can’t be described as the greatness of a perfect woman is beyond neither word nor ink

Truly not all women would travel the same journey, but whatever may be her journey of life but that is what would shape her of who she would be being a “woman”

As in simple words A woman eventually sculpts herself out from the rock called life, her sculpting skills are the ability to accept and adhere to life’s circumstances thus it determines how gorgeous or less perfect the statue of the woman is going to be or if she is just going to be a half sculpted rock…

What makes a woman special is her travel in the journey of life ………….

CONDITIONAL SELFISHNESS

“CONDITIONAL SELFISHNESS” What, how & why By suren


“Conditional selfishness” the term may be new but I found it the best way to describe the attitude of putting the self as a priority without being ignorant to the rights and the feelings others.

Self-centeredness has always been a menace and a debate among many, well it was for me when I used to feel irritated, hurt and agitated with self-cantered behaviours such as ignoring our existence by some selfish person in order to get something for themselves which are in the first place of equal right for instance in the queue for a movie ticket, banks or clinic counters (the type of selfishness I hate the most as I feel treated inhuman when my presence is ignored) or parking a vehicle as preferred for their personal convenience causing congestion to others…

These are a few of selfish attitudes which are hurting and very disappointing but unfortunately it is lurking amongst us at all times

But at another end of our daily life, the failure to grab an opportunity causes a big blow in one’s life as the living environment is nothing better than a flock of vultures getting the best of the meat where only the selfish and opportunist tends to get the better share of life in trade of virtues and patience

Understanding this made me think perhaps the selfishness among man is nurtured by the unhealthy environment of “The opportunity warfare” which most of us are facing today at work, in families or worse at homes yet the irony of it, it is happening and get going tougher day after day (Man has to agree that the term – survival of the fittest- is being practised in daily lives these days)

Now knowing selfishness hurts and at the same time it is also needed to be the player of the game of opportunities i.e. “Economic life” there has to be a borderline for selfishness as we look at how something bad can be used also for something good just like a syringe which can be used for both medical treatment and also to abuse drugs, limbering up the thought muscles on this gave birth to the term of “conditional selfishness”

Despite sounding cool, the term is best explained as;

“It’s fine to be selfish up to the extent of not undermining the lawful rights of others or not to hurt others physically or emotionally at the same time the act of being selfishness can bring good to a number of people surrounding the self”

We have to agree the evolution have done enough damage to the mankind especially to the softer side life which is the values and virtues by forming life patterns that creates an economic animal, being so man have to adopt certain aspects in order to survive yet it has to be done by accommodating the basic life values of human’s either religious or humanistic ones. With proper modification and best practise both goals of being in the game of opportunity can be achieved and at the same time physically or emotionally hurting others by being selfish can be totally avoided

Being selfish can be hurting very badly to others as it is an offence of taking away of what is rightfully or equally belongs to others is an act of injustice and cruelty but it can be merely done in a jiffy leaving a lifelong hurt to others.

Let’s understand that it’s okay to be selfish wherever applies but it has to have a condition which is, not to undermine or jeopardise the right of others or not to physically nor emotionally hurt others, to add to that, the act of being selfish can be justified by applying the idea coined by Immanuel Kant through his Utilitarianism concept which considers “the amount of wellness / goodness to the larger amount of individuals is the justification of an action thus if your action of selfishness;

1. Does not undermine the rights of others
2. Does not hurt others physically or emotionally
3. Brings goodness or happiness to a large number of individuals

Then the action of being selfish is well justified and acceptable as none of us mortals would be able to be “unselfish” living in the days of materialistic and performance orientated world, inculcate on practising “Conditional Selfishness”

Openness towards other religions

Religious fanaticism is for sure an issue to deal with as many fail to realize that there are tendency to have it in one’s self without even “the self” knowing it. There are many complications when religious fanaticism is being in practise whereby it silently weakens unity, togetherness and harmony and the damage is worse moreover if it lurks in a multi-cultural nation.

Religious fanaticism has a potential to create a mental block to understand and appreciate the religion of others and only emphasizes on the self-religious grandiosity this will eventually cause the act of being bias / stigmatic or the mind of looking down on other religions overall creating a religious encapsulation (If there is such word)

There is no harm in having a positive regard over the religion being practised, but creating a second to none value over the religion practised and the act of claiming supremacy would cause more bad than good as no religion on earth be it from the Vedic or the reveal knowledge encourages the said attributes.

One must always make it a point to understand that all religion is formed and exists for the wellbeing of the believing society thus it has to be respected and viewed with a positive regards this does not make the self any less religious of the own nor it does not make a convert in doing so

In order to have a say or have an opinion of other religions there are certain prerequisites which are


1. The ability to stand un-biased or comparison orientated to the religion of the self

2. Knowing and understanding basic fundamentals of the religion to be
commented to an acceptable level prior to commenting or stating a view

3. Accepting the Religion as a co-existing on earth and having a mutual respect
towards it not minding the contradicting factors of it towards other religions

Now the stated prerequisite’s sounds difficult and it is indeed yet these prerequisite’s ensure that a view given upon another religion is open and has a neutral factor as open commenting, mocking, jilting or down grading other religions in comparison to the very own religion would be an act of creating a stir of peace and values

Furthermore many fail to realize a point in contrast of Religious fanaticism is that many who practise it have to first turn back and look at how are they incorporated in their very own religion? either by nature i.e. born in that particular religion thus incorporated in it or engaging in the religion with a deep love, respect and understanding of the religion’s fundamental teachings, values & philosophies?

If the latter is neither found nor inculcated then clinging on Religious fanaticism is just an act of hypocrisy

Overall to be open to other religions, one must first understand the religion of the self, then understand the other religion as it is and only then work out on the diversities of religions existing and stay at the pace of accepting the diversities and respecting it as it is to sustain harmony and peace

Sharing a thought
Suren